If you’ve been trying to save your marriage and you’ve gotten pretty desperate, it might be time to consider some Couples Counseling. Couples counseling can certainly help you discover what is driving certain actions and emotions toward one another and get you to the very root of your troubles. If that is your aim, that is awesome…if not, well, at least you’ll know why.
I think that Tampa Marriage counseling is a good idea in some cases. However, I don’t think it is appropriate for every relationship. For instance, if there is clear conflict between partners (for example, if one partner has accused the other of being abusive or of being a dirty old man or woman), then couples counseling probably won’t help. Those conflicts have to be resolved in order to save a marriage, which means either partner needs to speak up about it or take steps to resolve it…which means either partner’s communication skills need to improve. Obviously, if the issues are fairly minor, this isn’t going to be possible. In those cases, it may be helpful to seek the advice of a professional therapist.
However, for other less serious marital problems, couples counseling can be an effective tool. I often work with couples who have come together in a marriage dispute but who have remained friends. Often, when there is a problem, it comes down to a difference of opinion over how to manage certain aspects of their relationship. The person with whom one person has come into the relationship with (the friend) is likely to be opposed to certain aspects of the other partner’s marriage. In these circumstances, couples counseling can often be of great help.
As stated above, though, it’s important to realize that couples counseling is not for every relationship. It is most effective when it is used to help people with complicated relationships that don’t require a full-time commitment and when the differences in the partners’ expectations aren’t so large that the working relationship can be threatened by them. In these cases, couples counseling may be of great benefit. However, there are other situations where it is likely to be a waste of time and money. If you are in such a situation, then couples therapy might be better used as a supplementary method to other efforts at improving the relationship.
One of the most common mistakes made by people in relationships is believing that “talking” will solve problems. Unfortunately, talking alone won’t do anything, and in some cases (such as with heated battles) it can make things even worse. People in relationships need to realize that there are two sides to every coin, and that they need to find a middle ground. If a single person is dominating the conversation, that needs to be identified and stopped. At the same time, though, a real effort to reach a compromise on an issue is likely to result in the best results.
There are many other problems that couples counseling can address. If there has been infidelity, for example, then couples counseling is an excellent way to address the trust issues that led to the cheating in the first place. Many people who have been married for decades and whose love may be as strong as their love for each other tend to think that a divorce is inevitable at some stage. This belief is unhealthy, and it leads to all kinds of problems in a relationship, such as a feeling of detachment from your partner. When your partner starts to withdraw, then you can’t give him or her any more attention, which makes the relationship fall apart again. Couples counseling is the ideal way to ensure that you get your love back, regardless of how long it has been since the last time you were together.